Well, the Mama Guilt is on overload today. My buttons are like a brand new touch mouse pad….so sensitive. I am not sure what is going on, but Jakob and I have been battling for weeks. We have our good days, and good moments, but for the most part we are not liking each other very much. There are just a few behaviours that drive me up the wall, WHINING and BACK TALKING are at the top of that list. Jakob has always been a whiner….he thinks that if he whines he will get what he wants. Not so much. For some strange reason he has now decided that back talking is the way to go as well. Again, not so much. There are days that my tolerance for his behaviours is pretty high, but these last few days that is not the case. I have spent more time yelling and arguing with him (I know, arguing with him is not the way to go), than I have loving on him. This makes me feel so guilty. I understand that this is just a few days out of a (hopefully) long life together, and that I shouldn’t let it get to me, that we all have these days….but it kills me.
I want to have fun with my boys. But it is hard for me to have fun with them when I don’t feel that they deserve it for acting poorly. I am in a catch 22 position. And here we are thinking about driving to the Jacksonville Zoo on Saturday….and Jakob has been misbehaving in school and he and I had a huge blow out this morning walking to school. Do we still go? Will he consider it a reward for his bad behaviour? Or do we suffer for it too and stay home, knowing that it will be a rough day of whining that we didn’t get to go?
I need help. I need a way to hold back my anger and not let this take over. I need to figure out how to explain to Jakob that this behaviour wont be tolerated and that it is just disrespectful to talk to us like that. I need to get back to parenting with love, not a raised voice and punishment. I am taking any advice you may have for me. Lay it on me, books, strategies, things that have worked for you, bribes, anything….please. I feel desperate at this point.